在母親節中讚嘆母親偉大 Praise mothers on Mother's Day

DOI:  10.13140/RG.2.2.21982.15684

     今天是母親節，祝願天下母親幸福快樂。

    常聽說母親偉大，甚至不少人覺得母親比父親偉大，似乎有點性別歧視。但是，我若從事實看，是否真的如此呢？父親天天在職場上衝鋒陷陣，心力交瘁才能賺得金錢回來，供應一家需要，只是兒女只感受到身為照顧者的母覫偉大。為何？這只因為在兒女的生活範圍中，只能見到母親的辛勞，看不到父親的辛勞。在兒女的成長中，他們在其生活圈中，跟母親一同建構他們的社會。就算兒女都長大了，他們明白父親也辛勞，只是他們的知識建立及他們的人格與相隨群體的建構，完全在一個母親與他們的紛圍中建構，他們所建構出來的社會就只有母親與他們。若果，我們接受一人一票決定父親、母親誰更偉大，可能勝出的一定是母親。不要以為這是民主，而可能是違反真實的建構主義。

    有一位當建築師的女士，認為她身為裝修工人的丈夫賺錢少，雙方協議由丈夫帶孩子。當兒子長大後，兒子只覺得父親偉大，可不是母親。

    所以我說：母親真偉大！社會建構主義更偉大！

Today is Mother's Day, I wish all mothers happy.

It is often heard that mothers are great, and many people even think that mothers are greater than fathers, which seems a bit sexist. But, if I look at it from the facts, is this really the case? Fathers spend their life in the workplace every day, and they are exhausted to earn money for provide the needs of the family. But his children only recognise the greatness of their mother as a caregiver. Why? This is because only the mother’s hard work can be seen in the life of the children, not the father’s hard work. While children are growing up, they construct their society with their mothers in their life circle. Even if the children grown up, they understand that fathers’ works are also hard, but their knowledge establishment and the construction of their personality with the corresponding accompanying groups are completely constructed in the circle between a mother and them. Thus, the society they constructed consists of only mother and them. If all people vote to decide whether father or mother is greater, the winner should be the mother. Do you think that this is a democratic revelation? It is the social constructionism that violate realism.

There is a female architect who thinks that her husband as a renovation worker makes little money, she agrees with her husband that her husband should take the children. When their son grows up, the son only thinks that his father is great, not his mother.

Therefore, I said: Mother is so great! Social Constructionism is much greater!

 

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